Single Ladies Generation

Beyonce

Pull me into your arms

Say I’m the one you WANT

if you don’t, you’ll be alone

and like a ghost I’ll be gone

Lyrics from Beyonce’s Single Ladies

For some time now I have not taken Beyonce’s Single Ladies song seriously. I have listened to the song many times but thought it was a fun, great song to dance to (not me lol), never thinking about the hard issues embedded in it until I had a heart to heart conversation with a friend.

For many who have tried dating and searching for love, they’ll admit how sad it gets when the man you expect to pop the question never does, but gets so scared.

I do not support people who spend years dating and flirting with a steady boyfriend/girlfriend and never asks the question to be married or even become exclusive partners. It is ridiculous and makes the guy (most times we are expected to have that discussion) looks silly and his actions questionable. Is he there for the long haul? Is he nervous about commitments? Whatever the answer guys who flirt around for years afraid to enter marriage most times will lose the girl.

Personally, I think men who are wary to enter commitments show characteristics that women should refrain from entertaining in their lives. If both parties give selflessly to the relationship and the man doesn’t ask the question should the female let him go? Should females be expected to start popping the marriage/commitment question then? Certainly women will not consider the suggestion that they should start going on one knee. I would say majority of us (both male and female) would agree that the decision should be left to the man to make.

Now, more than ever women are not waiting on men to go one knee. In the twinkling of an eye another gentleman or lady is ready to take up where you left off. Which brings me to the line Beyonce shouts in her song, “Where my ring at?”

For many women they are asking ‘where is the ring?’. Come on, a good partner doesn’t come by twice. When you have found the one that completes you, challenges you and makes the best love, put the ring on.

If you don’t, you’ll be alone, and like a ghost they’ll be gone.